Guess I just need some words of encouragement and motivation. I've been doing really good the past few days. Excellent self control with eating healthy AND not smoking since the 2nd of Oct. I figured yesterday being Saturday I could let myself relax a little...I wouldn't go overboard and SPLURGE, but I did allow myself to do some things I didn't allow myself over the past week (dessert). I wasn't planning on being lenient with myself today too, but I HAVE. I had a few tiny graham crackers for breakfast with a half cup of coffee. Had a LATE lunch (around 2:30) I made healthy chicken and rice with ginger and sesame..made it all by myself!! lol What made me so lenient with myself is the fact that even though it is a healthy food cooked without fattening grease, I let myself have a WHOLE bowl full! I was hungry
with lunch I had a sugar free drink.
After lunch I allowed myself to have a tootsie roll (50 cal) but that wasn't good enough...I have some left over deserts from the ice cream man's last visit "Schwan's Dessert for one" a little tiny 180 calorie cup of ice cream with pralines, choc chips and caramel. Ohhh it was so good...but ohhhh am I feeling SO guilty!!!! Especially after having done so good this week. I don't want this to be my breaking point...so I'm scared. I need to let this be a mistake made and move on. Go hard for another week! Anyone having the same problems?

I am having the same problem, and Im not giving up!!!

I slurged this weekend, which happens every weekend, but I just started my Diet on Sept 28 so this was my first weekend on my diet.

My boyfriend and I usually have TONS of snacks over the weekend. This weekend he bought his favorites Sun Chips - Peppercorn Ranch (not too bad), Ginger cookies (I only had one!), Gummi worms (Huge bag, but I only had 3), Veggie tray, Snacksters 100 calorie pack, and Popcorn with Dill all over one weekend!

I definetly messed up big time! I dont think my scales are going to agree with me, but the thing is, he's trying to gain weight, and Im trying to loose it! So it's been a little tough, but I am sure this one weekend is not going to stop me! I need to work harder over the week and not do the same thing next weekend!

Originally Posted by 36449

Guess I just need some words of encouragement and motivation. I've been doing really good the past few days. Excellent self control with eating healthy AND not smoking since the 2nd of Oct. I figured yesterday being Saturday I could let myself relax a little...I wouldn't go overboard and SPLURGE, but I did allow myself to do some things I didn't allow myself over the past week (dessert). I wasn't planning on being lenient with myself today too, but I HAVE. I had a few tiny graham crackers for breakfast with a half cup of coffee. Had a LATE lunch (around 2:30) I made healthy chicken and rice with ginger and sesame..made it all by myself!! lol What made me so lenient with myself is the fact that even though it is a healthy food cooked without fattening grease, I let myself have a WHOLE bowl full! I was hungry
with lunch I had a sugar free drink.
After lunch I allowed myself to have a tootsie roll (50 cal) but that wasn't good enough...I have some left over deserts from the ice cream man's last visit "Schwan's Dessert for one" a little tiny 180 calorie cup of ice cream with pralines, choc chips and caramel. Ohhh it was so good...but ohhhh am I feeling SO guilty!!!! Especially after having done so good this week. I don't want this to be my breaking point...so I'm scared. I need to let this be a mistake made and move on. Go hard for another week! Anyone having the same problems?

To be honest, you are trying to drop two addictions, two hard at the same time and that is going to take a lot of will power and control. The reality that you will likely face, if you don't tweak things a bit is total binge and you will smoke again.

My greatest advise is to sit back, realize why you are trying to lose weight and stop smoking. Write it all down. I don't think you can fight both addictiion simultaneously, that's my opinion.

Pick one and work on that. I'm not sure which one is more important, and because I'm not a smoker, I can't tell you which one is hardest.

Being a food addict myself and even AFTER 5 yrs I'm fighting my food issues daily, I can suggest that the food addiction, won't end in a few days, weeks or months.

Therefore, what you need to do is set some goals:
BIG overall goal
Monthly goal
Weekly goal
Daily goal
And even smaller mini goals for each day

Then work on each goal. Little by little you will conquer and win.

ie. Water. If you are not drinking enough water let that be one goal. If say you are not eating enough fruits, then make it a goal to eat a fruit or two daily and replacing a sweet desert with such fruit.

Little changes will lead to huge success.

You don't have to do this perfect each day from day one.

I hope this does not offend you as you and I don't know each other.

I felt compel to say something because I see so many people come and go on this site. The most successful are those who set goals and go for them each and every day.

Oh and exercise such as walking is the best way to start.

So my answer to your question is NOT to go hard next week but make small changes daily.

Good luck.

Originally Posted by 36396

I am having the same problem, and Im not giving up!!!

I slurged this weekend, which happens every weekend, but I just started my Diet on Sept 28 so this was my first weekend on my diet.

My boyfriend and I usually have TONS of snacks over the weekend. This weekend he bought his favorites Sun Chips - Peppercorn Ranch (not too bad), Ginger cookies (I only had one!), Gummi worms (Huge bag, but I only had 3), Veggie tray, Snacksters 100 calorie pack, and Popcorn with Dill all over one weekend!

I definetly messed up big time! I dont think my scales are going to agree with me, but the thing is, he's trying to gain weight, and Im trying to loose it! So it's been a little tough, but I am sure this one weekend is not going to stop me! I need to work harder over the week and not do the same thing next weekend!

This is the very reason why I don't count calories or worry about what I eat on the weekends. Typically weekends are hard for 99% of us. I know that I always eat snacks and less healthy food on the weekends.

Yeah you're right! I think I am going to give it my all on week days, and then on the weekends ease up a little (but still not go overboard!)

The only trouble is, weigh day is always on Monday! So I guess that will be my motivation!

Weekdays are easy for me. I have a friend at work that is also on BuddySlim and so we keep each other motivated. If it weren't for her, I wouldnt go to the gym and vice versa. The weekends can be really tough. If you have someone at home or people you hang out with, it helps if they know what your goals are so they can help keep you on track.

One thing i have realized over the last year and a half is that just by acknowledging that what your eating is not healthy is a great step. Before i began my weight loss journey, i would eat whatever i wanted and not realize the negative impact a ginormous bowl of ice cream or a whole tub of movie theater popcorn had on me-both mentally and physically. Just by realizing that it's bad for me helped me subconciously eat better even when i wasn't paying attention. Instead of grabbing the biggest piece of birthday cake, i would grab the smallest one. So it's not just the overall picture that matters, it's each decision that impacts your life. So even if you ate poorly one weekend, did you at least eat better than you would have before starting this journey? If you did, than i say it's a victory and with each victory, with every healthy decision, it will get easier.

Originally Posted by 11515

To be honest, you are trying to drop two addictions, two hard at the same time and that is going to take a lot of will power and control. The reality that you will likely face, if you don't tweak things a bit is total binge and you will smoke again.

My greatest advise is to sit back, realize why you are trying to lose weight and stop smoking. Write it all down. I don't think you can fight both addictiion simultaneously, that's my opinion.

Pick one and work on that. I'm not sure which one is more important, and because I'm not a smoker, I can't tell you which one is hardest.

Being a food addict myself and even AFTER 5 yrs I'm fighting my food issues daily, I can suggest that the food addiction, won't end in a few days, weeks or months.

Therefore, what you need to do is set some goals:
BIG overall goal
Monthly goal
Weekly goal
Daily goal
And even smaller mini goals for each day

Then work on each goal. Little by little you will conquer and win.

ie. Water. If you are not drinking enough water let that be one goal. If say you are not eating enough fruits, then make it a goal to eat a fruit or two daily and replacing a sweet desert with such fruit.

Little changes will lead to huge success.

You don't have to do this perfect each day from day one.

I hope this does not offend you as you and I don't know each other.

I felt compel to say something because I see so many people come and go on this site. The most successful are those who set goals and go for them each and every day.

Oh and exercise such as walking is the best way to start.

So my answer to your question is NOT to go hard next week but make small changes daily.

Good luck.

Nancy has some great advice. Personally I used to smoke....and when I quit I didn't gain weight. That came much later. And either water aerobics or walking is a good start for exercise.

I also quit and did not gain weight....There is some great advice on here but another piece of advice (especially to quit smoking) is to keep occupied with your hands....example-crochet,dust/sweep/clean/make jewelery,paint nails,lift some weights....those r just examples but you need to substitute all the times when you would normally be smoking (or eating) have something on hand (game on a cell phone even) anything! and a lot of times u don't feel so compelled if you are moving your hands and distracting your mind! personally, I think it is very possible for you to achieve this!After a couple of weeks,that turns into months and after a couple of months the urge gets lower (for ciggs mainly) but also food!! I wish you a lot of luck!! keep us posted!!

Guess what we all live in the real world and we are going to have days when we spurge and days when we go out to dinner and have what we want to have instead of what we should have. I beleave that if I want to lose weight and keep it off that I have to remind my self that I do live in the real world. And when I do have days where I have a little more then I should or have something I normally should not that.........Oh well this is the real world and if we cut every thing out of our lives we won't succeed in the long run and that's what we all want is the long run........not yet another yoyo. So stop beating yourself up and keep up the good work.

carol jo