Hey everybody, Just having a not so good day and looking for some support. I have been here for about 4 days now and this is the only support system I have. My husband feels like I am crazy because he says i am fine the way I am and dont need to loose weight. ALthough this is nice to here I know that I do did to loose weight. There is a skinny person in there somewere and I am determined to let it out. I have managed to cut my portion sizes somewhat this week and am pround to say other than my one coke it has been all water so I feel pretty good about it all but throughout the day I just wonder if I will stick with it and get the job done. I need some motivation and a strong support group which is why I am here. I dont have anyone here at home that really understands what I am going through to help me so I am counting on you guys!!!! Any words of encouragment!!!!

I soooo hear what you are saying! I started out here thinking - cool, a great place to meet people who can help! Don't get me wrong, they are all very nice people, but when it comes down to it ALL the support you are going to get is in words, and perhaps a couple of prayers. What I find is NOBODY IS GOING TO HELP ME BUT ME! My husband never says a word about my weight...good or bad - smart man. I know what I need to do though, and I know it's all about me - doing the right thing! It's they WHY I DON'T DO THE RIGHT THING that I'm so torn up, and worried about. I KNOW WHY! But still knowing doesn't make it any easier. I just want to be one of those THIN people that never looks like she's had a weight problem her entire life. See how those emotions can run rampede in just a few minutes.

Beth, in all honesty we all can give you encouraging words and support you but you have to be in the right mindset to do this. You have to really want to lose the weight. Not just put in half of an effort. You need 110% in this. This is no easy task and I do want to wish you all the best of luck. I really do hope you are successful at this. Don't give up on yourself. There will be bumps in the road, but what matters is how you choose to handle those bumps. Good luck to you.

It's nice that your husband say's you don't have to lose. But, in reality, it may not be the healthiest choice. Looking slimmer is just a big bonus. If you have family you want to stick around for, use that as your motivation. The damage we do to our bodies when we are young will only make it harder to fix as we get older. You can do it girl. And my advice to you upfront is get rid of that coke. Even if it's just one. It is all empty calories. It gives you no health benefits whatsoever. Good luck!

You can definately do it!! Hang in there!!

I am new here too and really understand what you are saying. My fiance says the same things....you are so beautiful, you don't need to lose any weight....I love you just the way you are...blah blah blah. Thats great but it's coming from the man that I love that weighs exactly the same as he did in HS and has never had to struggle with weight.
You made a few great steps this week......watching your portions, cutting out the soda and looking for a place for support/venting........keep that up!
Are you getting any activity in? If you aren't, maybe soon that could be another change you can do.
Best of luck on your journey!
Jen

Hey, im new myself so i know how your feeling. I too have close friends and family who tell me im lovely the way i am but they see how i feel from the outside not the inside. Im not changing my body for anyone except myself, i believe i can get my figure back with a serious amount of support from people who are also going through the same thing xx

It is soooo hard wanting to be thin and healthy and trying to lose, when those around you aren't supportive or think you okay as you are. I chose to do this for me and since I became comfortable in my skin and learned to like me, I have found this weight loss journey alot easier to stick with. I know you can do this if it is what you truly want inside, Only you can do this, for you. We can all say hang in there, good luck, and so on, but in the end you have to have the strength and motivation to carry through. I say good for you for coming here and taking the first of many steps on a journey to a happier healthier new you....

I agree with what everyone has said. I too am new here and I am the one that has to change my waysm but having a place to vent makes you feel good. I joined a group when i quit smoking and it was a great place to share your feelings. I too have a husband who never says good or bad things about my weight. He has never had to watch what he eats. Thanks god my son takes after him and not me. ) I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need to talk we are here for you. Take care. Nicolle

i don't have support in real life either. My husband says,"you look fine" and my mom, she's a bit heavier and I don't think she really is there either.
and my friends, so busy with their own lives and not dieting..so yeah, I'm alone except here too!