Sorry scott i should of said most men~* but not all

Much better!!! Thanks Shelly!!!* Feel free to rub it in those men's face though!

What a great question....I guess for me there really aren't many people, except that I want everyone to know how well I'm doing. Well...okay, there's one whose face I'd like to rub it in a little...*My Ex Husband!!! When I was a size six, he told me I was fat...and later I found out he'd married a much, much larger woman when we divorced. Weird, right?? Anyway...

Cathy-
I think you make a most excellent point...Truly...
But what may be easy for one person to do is not always easy for someone else to do...Therefore, in reality, a lot of us do have hurt and anger with folks who were mean and hurtful...It is a reality of life unfortunately...
I think that is what is so wonderful about this space. Its a safe haven of sorts to say whatever you want to say without the fear of persecution...All of us...
Whether it be serious, funny, flirty, or lighthearted...
I am sure every single person on this board has a whole boatload of problems that we cant really get our hands around...Everybody has their own baggage so to speak...
So how nice to have a spot where you can come* and feel "Normal" whatever that really means, for just a moment...
Thank you Cathy for sharing your perspective.* I dont think you should ever worry about sharing another view point...We are all here because we have a common journey pulling us together...We come from all walks of life...And how wonderful if we actually learn something along the way...
Take care~Dawn

Dawn, I agree.* For most of us, the person we want to show what we did and 'rub it in their face' is someone that is fairly close to us and, in some cases, someone we see on a regular basis.* That person is someone that is a constant 'negative influence' in our lives.* There is nothing unhealthy in wanting to show that person that they were, and still are, wrong about us.* And if that is part of what motivates us, then so much the better.

Even though we are supposed to be doing this for ourselves,there is some motivation in relishing in the fact someone who thought you were too fat or was judgemental in that way will have your new weight loss rubbed in their noses. My person in my sister*in law. For many reasons,like being called a fatass and judged and picked on and critizied for being overweight and using that as an aspect to belittle me is why I am going to use this as a motivation,alongside the fact I want to be healthy and become*a mother. Did I mention is 300 pounds and is currently pregnant with her 3rd? EEEEEEEEEERRRRRGHHH!

Yes. I am not saying its the most healthy thing in the world, by any means...But its a reality for most of us, and how wonderful if we can channel that negative energy and use it as our motivation and turn it into a positive...
Thanks everyone for participating!
Dawn

the guy i've had a crush on for 6 years so far.