I'm at least 22 pounds more than I was before I became pregnant. If I don't change my ways and my weight, it it more than likely that my 8mth old baby girl will grow up fat.

Genetically, my parents and brother are over-weight. They don't believe in eating in moderation and do virtually no exercise (wait, they do click the tv remote - so that is some exercise, huh?)

As a kid, I used to be super-skinny, even underweight but now post-pregnancy, I'm struggling to exercise and eat right. I have a multitude of excuses - baby was crying alot, baby took a long time with her feeds, too tired, too hungry, not enough sleep.

I need to quit the excuses and just get off my butt. I'm a petite girl (4ft9in) and weigh 122pounds now. I used to weigh 99pounds and that is my goal. I have some lovely clothes that I miss wearing.

Also my husband used to love showing me off to his friends and colleagues. Now we barely go out. He's not ashamed of me, but some people can be cruel when you're big and fat. I want him to have that slim girl that he had before our beautiful baby Alexis came along.

Our baby also needs to see her mommy looking slim, fit and healthy and she will likely follow in having a healthier and fitter life.

I really think you need to talk to someone about this. At 122 lbs, even at your short height, that is hardly "big and fat." And being a little overweight never stopped anyone from going out and having a good time and LOVING YOURSELF.

I think the best message that you can send to your daughter is that she is a beautiful girl, inside and out - and the only way she will learn that is from your example. You need to learn to love yourself unconditionally, not just when you're skinny enough for your husband to "show off." When you learn to do that, losing weight will just be the icing on the cake, so to speak (a bad analogy, given the conversation...) Don't make it your all consuming purpose for living, or you'll only be disappointed.

Being skinny never made anyone happy. Only YOU can do that.

Nicole is right of course, but I also know how frustrating it is to be stuck with those extra pounds after pregnancy. I felt great after I stripped them off and strated fitting in my old clothes again. You can do it, CDL. Just try to take it slow, enjoying your baby's childhood as you go and cutting yourself some slack too. The older the baby is, the more active games you can play with her, and prevent her from turning into a couch potato. Trust me, by the time they are 3 years old, they can teach their parents bootcamps (take it from mom who ran up and down the hill about 100 times yesterday chasing the neighbor's pup after her laughing offspring)!

I definitely agree with Leida. Cut yourself some slack and have FUN. That's the best way to lose the weight - enjoying yourself and the time you have with your baby.

Nicole and Leida - thank you for the words of encouragement. I suppose that coming from Singapore (as I do), the majority of girls here are super skinny and even the skinny ones are going for weight loss treatments!

So I do understand you, Nicole, if you are unable to appreciate fully what it is to be my size and living in Singapore.

I'm not exagerating when I say that being heavier and bigger affects your job opportunities, social circle and most definitely your self-esteem. As I've been slim a good part of my life, I've experienced first hand how others who were just as qualified and experienced as I was, had a much harder time getting job offers, simply because they were bigger than I was. That's the cruel reality of life, and it is important to acknowledge that. Now that I'm a home-maker, I don't need to slim down to secure myself a job but becoming slimmer will make me so much more confident and I believe a better wife and mom (as well as daughter, sister ..etc) as well.

So while I will and have been cutting myself some slack, there is a danger of being too complacent. After I started this thread, I was motivated enough to work on on my stationary bike for 1 hour. Today I'm going to do at least half an hour of various crunches and then another hour on the bike.

Leida, it is reassuring to see how far you've progressed in your weight loss. Keep up the good work. Yes, I'm sure that I'll soon be running after my little one - and that will help get some of the weight off too.

If you want you can join our monthly Commit to Be Fit Challenge on the Challenge forums, there we post a running log of excersises we do every day - I find it helps me a huge deal with motivation, since it is accountability with very encouraging and friendly atmosphere.

Good luck, and try to ignore all the negative thoughts that your surroundings push you into - it would obviously be super-tough in the culture you described- but it's just a bit easier to do things when it's about enjoying and having fun, than when you feel pressured into it.

Cheers!

It is much different in other countries. I know Rachel was a regular here a while back, she's from the US but lives in China. People will walk up to you and call you fat, ask why you're so fat without hesitating or feeling bad about it. It's different.

Originally Posted by 13672

It is much different in other countries. I know Rachel was a regular here a while back, she's from the US but lives in China. People will walk up to you and call you fat, ask why you're so fat without hesitating or feeling bad about it. It's different.

Yeah, I have heard that... That must be very difficult.

Yes sometimes the comments are hurtful and hit you when you least expect it. At other times, it is seemingly crouched in such nice terms that you almost miss the underlying insult - those hurt a whole lot more!!

You can loss weight in doing regular exercise everyday. Eating healthy foods can also help.





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