Question for those with 200+ weight to lose or lost

Good afternoon all! I have a few questions for those out there with 200+ weight to lose or lost. Obesity runs in my family, almost every woman on my mothers side has weight issues, however one of my cousins is around the 400lb mark and steadily gaining, and my family is very concerned about her health, as well they should be. Now here are my questions, please only reply if you feel comfortable doing so. How difficult is everyday life? What kind of lifestyle got you in the position you are in? How to you begin to lose weight? Did anyone help you in making the decision to lose weight? I actually have so many questions, I guess I would like to hear peoples' stories, if anyone is willing to tell! I know I've told my sordid details to those who really want to know. This isn't for any kind of research or anything, I am just very interested in life stories of all kinds, if anyone would be willing to share, Men or Women! You could also contact me privately if you like, or ask me about myself too....believe me I am comfortable talking about anything..