Grrrr TOM...blah..booo...I am sorry hun. BUT ray of sunshine for ya...Next week is gonna be just FAB-U-LOUS for you! I can feel it.

Originally Posted by 11482

Julie said she maintained this week...... I think she gained! No, I'm not calling Julie a liar... I think she gained some confidence! Take it easy, as much as you can Julie, I hope that sore throat is just allergies.

Thanx Sandy, I needed a good smile today. I am feeling worse now than I did this morning. I bought some more allergy meds and I am going to take some in a few minutes. Right now my eyes feel so dry and my throat is so raw. I managed to get some nice warm soup for lunch today. It is kinda chilly here so that was good! I'll check back later today when my head hopefully will be a bit clearer!

Katie- I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I have gone through chemo before and it's not easy stuff to handle in the body. She is a very brave lady. I pray for you and your family as well.

Heartbreakers- Today was weigh in...right, today is Saturday? I've been confused lately. Anyway, I maintained this week...AGAIN -.- I've finally hit that SLUMP. Oh well. Things will be better now cause we got the computer fixed yesterday so I'll be able to log on more this week. I'm happy I didn't gain.

Allow me to vent?

I've been so depressed lately...not really depressed but feeling empty. On the 3rd, I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me. And I don't know how to deal. I told him I need time to think and a break. I knoooow, I should break up with him. We've been together for nine months. I really just feel empty and like I can never trust him again. Ofcourse he's going to say he's sorry, that it was a mistake, that it will never happen again BUT he cheated on me with his ex. They didn't....uh, you know-so he claims. Maybe I'm over-reacting. They made out in his car and he felt her up. Am I being too graphic? I just need advice and needed to vent. Sorry.

Concha: I am really sorry to hear about your problems with your boyfriend. This is a tough decision to make. I can give you my opinion but don't hold it against me later please. As young as you are, I wouldn't advise staying with someone like this. Sure there is the possibility that he would never do it again, but how would you know that?! One thing I will say is don't make a decision one way or another until you have plenty of time to be by yourself and can get past the initial hurt feelings. Whatever your decision is you should make it when you are level headed. Take your time hun.

I think that's very good advice that tiffany gave you, concha. I know it's hard. When I was your age, I was actually married, and he cheated on me. I thought my world was coming to an end, it made me physically ill. It was so hard to trust after that. It took me a longer time than I'd like to admit now, but finally, I found the strength to end the marriage. In my situation, it was the right thing to do. But I've also seen many couples who have been able to make it work, but it does take work. When I look back on it all, in my case,I just feel frustration over all of the time that I wasted. It may be hard to hear, but if he's cheating with his ex, it usually means that there are still some kind of feelings or connection there. You are a beautiful and strong woman, just take some time to figure out what is best for you, it will become clear to you in time.

I'm also checking in for the weigh in. Sadly, I am a maintainer, next week will be better for me.
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Originally Posted by 18814

Hey everyone, TOM is here and on top of that I am up 2 lbs. So sad.....the wet weather here doesn't help my mood, but.....

I am so proud of you losers.....what a great job you did this week. I hope to be back being a loser next weekend. CONGRATS!!!!

Rhonda, please don't give up. I just know next week will be much better for you..

Concha, hugs to you. I feel, too, that no matter what sweet things and promises he may say now, he's already proven his character. You deserve better and you'd show yourself the respect you deserve by moving on. It's hard, but this too shall pass.

Thank you everyone for your advice...it is very hard and I don't want it to end. Especially, not this way but I've just been thinking, "It's his loss-not mine." I'm going to give it a little more time until my head is clear and think things over.

I don't even know why he'd still have feelings for his ex. She's older than him and has a kid, not divorced yet, cheated on him, and has a boyfriend.

Oh well.

Thank you again.


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Great job to all those losers!!

Concha dear, there are good losers (like you) and there are bad losers (like him) Good ..... Bad ..... I think everyone is giving you good advice, telling you to take your time, don't let him pressure you into making a decision until you're darned good and ready. Personally, if you were my daughter/ granddaughter.... I would tell you to walk away and never look back. But if you were my daughter/ granddaughter you wouldn't listen to me anymore than they did. So, just take your time.....and please value yourself enough to do what you truly think is best for YOU! Believe me, he will be doing what he thinks is best for him.

I gained 0.5 pounds this week...no excuses, I just didn't do what I know I should be doing (like exercising, eating the right amount of the right foods, etc) =(