Ok, I came and started to post 3 times today. Each time it sounded harsher than I wanted it to be. We've gotten ourselves in this situation that perpetuates itself. It's like a revolving door. We start the process, we don't see the results we want, don't get enough support from the people around us, and let our crazy lives get in our own way, so we fall off the wagon, then we beat ourselves up, eat some more, try again, and go through the whole sequence of events over, and over, and over. When we beat ourselves up, and talk badly about ourselves, out loud or internally, it wears us down, and sometimes the people around us see that, and join in. Instead of lifting us up, the pull us down further, whether through unkind words and jokes, or unsupportive behavior, or whatever. It's time for that s**t to stop.

We've all got people who don't get what we're trying to do, or who have no clue how to help us get there, or even those who for whatever reason, don't want to see us succeed. We need to look at those people, seriously hard, and make some decisions about what we're willing to tolerate from them, and how to make them understand that.

I would never presume to tell anyone what they *should* do about their personal situation, but I CAN tell myself. So here's my plan to get out of the weight loss downy dumps and focus on myself.

1. I will haul my butt to the gym daily M-F at 9am. School meetings can wait, appointments can be made later in the day.
2. I will exercise with my family on the weekend. It's important for my son to see me moving and grooving.
3. I will STOP harping on myself for gaining 20 pounds over the past 2 years.
4. I will STOP turning to food when I'm mad, sad, frustrated, or just because it's easy.
5. I will not wait to start getting healthy again. There is no tomorrow. There is only today. I can fix it today. And I will do it again tomorrow.

That said, I'm focusing on weight training, because it will boost my resting metabolism, and I need that for my 42 year old self. I use my bike rides as a form of stress reduction, in addition to a great cardio workout, but oftentimes I let the weight training fall to the side because it takes more time. I'm worth the extra 30 minutes. More muscle means more calories burned while I'm sleeping, working, cleaning the house, or painting my toenails. I'm also making some pretty fierce calorie reductions. After I left BCB almost 2 years ago, I started a calorie focused plan. My goal was 1200 calories a day. If I did not work out, that's all I ate. If I did work out, I ate the calories I burned that day, but my net for the day was 1200. I lost 15 lbs doing that. I have since gained it all back.

I can do this. And no one can stop me but me...and I'm not gonna let it happen.

SO, what are you gonna do?

what am i gonna do you ask?

1) i will be joining weight watchers at 9am tomorrow. i need the accountability of a scale and a scheduled weigh in. obviously the one(s) i have at home do me no good.

2) i am going to get off this excuse locomotive i have found myself stuck on.
i keep putting off joining because of "dinner and drinks with friends...i will start the day after" and "just eat it all now i can start fresh in the morning" and today i told myself "just wait until after easter to start meetings" but then after i resolved to do that it was "hmmm i do have a weekend in vegas planned the second weekend of april, maybe i shouldn't join until after that"
well fuck all that-pardon my swa-hee-lee. i am 100% miserable in my own skin-somethings gotta give. i have lost significant weight, while hanging with friends, while encountering trips and holidays. it can be done.

3. ok rome wasn't built in a day. and i do not want to over commit-and set myself up to fail. i will say i will re-establish healthy habits that i have let fall along the wayside.
water will be a priority
exercise will be a priority
carbs will not be a priority
journaling will be a huge priority
planning (goes hand in hand with journaling)



sue is right girls-sue can do this, no one is gonna stop her. i want to believe the same about myself-and my fellow strugglers

what are you gonna do?

Preach it Sue Preach it!

This is a great post! We all have these situations. My husband as odd as that sounds seems to be my problem. All week he's been offering me candy. I keep telling him no thank you but it's been getting on my nerves. So what am I going to do.

1. I'm not going to Allow my DH or anyone else to push food at me. I'm simply going to say no and make it clear that I'm getting healthy and no Food product is going to stand in my way. This includes at work where my boss the emotional eater is always trying to get me to eat more.
2. I've already joined a gym and when it opens I'm hitting it hard. Everyday I will be there working out. Getting myself fit and happy.
3. I'm going to work on other areas of my life as well. Going to treat myself better. Give myself the respect I deserve. I'm going to live as if there is no tomorrow. Just today.
4. Food is my friend
Exercise makes me happy and healthy
Being kind to myself only helps me be a better person not only to myself but to those around me as well.

I did not fail yesterday..MY GOD I WANTED TO but I DIDN'T!!!! I ate a good CORE supper and drank my water and kept myself busy after I got home!!!! I know Tues night suppers are a red flag for me--this is a fact and one that I have to deal with personally and get a grip on--and I stayed my ASS HOME!! So what if I missed a few hours of talking with the girls..I also missed a few hours of munching on the crap they have over there and I missed not being able to stop eating because the rest of them are stuffing their faces!!! Did I miss being there..sure! Did I miss the food..sure! Did I miss eating a healthy, senisble supper..NOPE!!! DID THAT!

I will.....

I started back yesterday with getting up early again...I will continue to do this and get my exercise in and my "self" time...I need this!!!

continue to drink water at at least 80 oz per day..no excuses, get the water down!!

continue to walk in evenings at least 2-3 times a week...I can put everything else on the back burner..I need this!!!

keep taking my lunch to work as I am not capable of eating out with my co-workers and making sensible choices there!

keep going to the produce stand and buying fresh fruits and veggies because not only am I enjoying them being on the counter to grab but my kids & DH are enjoying it.

help my daughter get her weight gain under control and get a plan in place to either maintain or loose a couple of pounds and help DS maintain his current weight loss of 15 lbs and teach him the right ways to eat prior to leaving for college so that he doesn't have that freshman weight gain.

I WILL DO THIS!!!!

My frustration right now is the #s...they just aren't there but then I am in smaller clothes, I am getting back into clothes that didn't fit, I am getting compliments on my body, I am putting bigger clothes to the back of the closet, I am feeling more confident in public with my body and picking more complimentary type shirts, etc rather than hiding behind my oversized worn out tees and lounge pants. I have to concentrate on the positive side of this and not freak out because of the scales...

Thanks Sue...I think we all needed a pity party wake up call!!!!

You know, I was thinking yesterday as I was commiserating with y'all, "I sure hope Sue comes on board today because somehow she always has something no-nonsense to say...and it just resonates with me" and POOF! here you are

McAnna - honey, I'm right there with ya. I am the queen of excuses and feeling sorry for myself with all my traveling, having to make the decision to give up my derm practice due to some a$$hole who wasn't paying my salary and bonuses, but yet gets to keep me under his thumb with a 2 year non-compete...no more excuses, no more whining. I have a good job to spend that 2 years at that will not leave my family in squallor in the meantime and I'm a big believer in karma...he'll get his someday (mainly when I start my own practice and kick his McAss).

So, here we go:

1. I will join WW on Sunday. There's no excuse b/c I rarely travel on Sunday (if ever). The meeting is 40 min away, but I need to keep reminding myself that I am worth it and need to make the damn time. I will be with my folks this weekend down in Florida, but will join the first Sunday I get back.

2. Somehow I have got to make exercise and strength training a priority. I feel better when I do it, but if you look at my history, I go about 2 weeks and then something happens (travel, etc), I get off course and then have trouble hopping back on the wagon.

3. Water - I do good when I'm home but horrible when I travel b/c I don't want to make the reps I ride with stop at a gas station every 10 minutes. So....I need to probably load up in the hotel room at night or start wearing a catheter and baggie....

Later taters,

LT

Sue,
thanks for starting this. Wanted to write something like this last night but was too wiped out!!

I need to get the water back under control. Now should have weekends free, until mom comes back in may, so have to up that water on the weekends.

I need to start my long walks again,I've missed them w/ the bad weather we've had this winter. I need to start walking either the beach or the nature trail ( prob the sidewalk @ the beach since there's more people around. Took a drive there on monday when I was sick and they finally completed the construction around there, so there are parking spaces again)

thats my major to do list @ the moment

Lizzy

Stress is the biggest contributor to my overeating....so is yummy food, so is a celebration, so is being bored.....the list just goes on.

I have been saying that work was the biggest contributor due to the stress level there, but yesterday I caught myself more than once about to hit a donut that was sitting on the counter.

What am I going to do?

1......Get self control back in check. If it is there, that does not mean I have to eat it. I put alot of healthy choices in the house to turn to.

2.......Even though I am not working, I will not be lazy. We have the Y membership and am going to go there everyday. Today I am going to do lower body in the weight room and then swim.

3.......I have to make an effort with the water. It is so hard at home to do it for some reason, but I have got to fill that mug up 3 times.

4.......I have to journal. I have been doing my journaling online at Sparkpeople, but it is not helping me in the WW department. I have time on my hands now, I will do both.

What are you gonna do?

Thank you Sue! Great post....

I went to bed feeling much better about things last night. I realized that while being on the zoloft, I can still stay at points, I can still exercise...it may be harder to lose weight and easier to gain, but I can still live a healthy lifestyle in the meantime while I am weaning off and starting the new med. I realized that I'm just one of those people that has to work especially hard to stay on track, and how beneficial it is for me and my family that I stay on track. I tend to overthink the process too much....it's so basic and so easy, but for some reason I overanalyze and make it so much harder than it has to be.

3 most important things to remember:
stay in your point range
drink water
be active every day

I seem to have a real issue with these simplest of tasks...if I eat 2 oreos, even though they are within my points, I feel like I blew it...if I don't get the "best" cardio workout in the world or miss a day of weights, I feel like I didn't work hard enough.


Here's my list:

1. I'm gonna give the new medication a try and not be scared, I was strong enough to start it the first time and it did it's job...I'm proud of myself for realizing when I need "help".

2. I'm gonna do some sort of physical activity 5 days a week, and it doesn't have to be perfect and it doesn't have to be a strict regimen.

3. I'm gonna stop putting myself down and I'm going to tune Mike and his joking out, this journey is about me, and for lack of a better word....he can kiss my ass!

4. I'm going to stop being afraid of what consequences I face every time I lose weight, and stop sabatoging myself when I succeed....it will be what it will be. (hard to explain this one!)

5. I'm going to make sure I plan each day out...we all know that planning is the key to success.

Ok, there we go so far...lol...

That's my girls. We will not let this thing defeat us. We are worth every stinking ounce of effort that goes into it. I love you all like sisters, and it hurts me to know how in pain we all have been. Let's heal each other.

First off I have to say thanks girls. It's nice to know Im not the only one struggling. On to the Plan:

1. I will take time to do my morning walk 3 times a week, this makes me feel better and gives me "ME" time to think about things without interruption.

2. I will come here daily - even if that means first thing in the morning or last thing before bed. I need the support.

3. I will journal everyday - none of this guessing crap over the weekend.

4. I will only have healthy snacks and treats in the house, Im too tempted by the other stuff.

5. I will quit thinking Im destin to be fat. This is something I will and can change. No More negative thoughts about weight.

6. I will get in my water - Hell or High water!

Today is a new day, I will make time for myself to get healthy mentally & physically.