I have learned that I have to do this for me and me alone. Not for those who look at my weight in disgust. I also have learned that I have to make changes that I can incorporate for the long term. I know fad diets don't work for me and I have learned that I had to change my feelings toward food. It isn't my friend. Just fuel for my body. I have also learned I can't do this alone and* I have to stay with this site. It is my anchor!