Megan,
I understand your pain as something very similar happened to me. The important thing is DO YOU THINK YOU ARE PRETTY? Right now, at this moment, excess weight and all. I realized that I need to love myself and feel good about myself before I can expect others to.

I also know that women's weight is NOT something men want to discuss, because as your husband said they don't want to lie to you but they don't want to hurt your feelings either (a no win situation for them).

I would continue to do what you are doing, lose the weight for you, get healthy and then see where the situation stands!!!!

Best of luck to you and congratulations on such an incredible weight loss!